Sauntering
I've been thinking more and more about disappearing. Not in a creepy way, in a way of like, if you are not attached to your cell phone, if you're not on LinkedIn, if you're not working in a professional 9-to-5 job, how much of you disappears? If you live with a family, you exist to them. If you have small children in your home, you have some identity from them, a husband or a wife. But many parts of you disappear. You have more room than you did before.
It's a quite uncomfortable feeling, I think, for many people, especially in America, to get that time back. It's something that we all may struggle with if this whole AI thing goes the way that it says it's going to go. What do we do if we have more time back? We consciously don't want to fill it up with being tethered still to that world through our cell phones, through our laptops. We don't want to be tethered to the places that give us identity artificially. We only want to have our identity come from the physical world. What do you do?
I call it sauntering because I totally stole that from Matthew McConaughey, who says everyone asks him why he's so chill. He says that he prefers to saunter through life. The way that he plans his day is he plans it the day before and he gives enough time between his things that he's required to be able to saunter through the day. I love this juxtaposition between appearing like you're so chill and actually being very structured and thoughtful in creating the container for sauntering.
I've been thinking more about what you fill the day with if it's not going to be artificially filled in for you. If you fill it in while you're “asleep”, it's easy, you fill it in with a commute, a job, a gym, dinner, three meals a day, a little social media time, maybe a tv show. Maybe take a shower or brush your teeth. But if you are trying to consciously choose what you fill the day in with what do you fill it up with that allows you to saunter?
I think the first mistake would be replacing one-to-one all of the things that you felt like you had to do with things that you feel like you should like to do, if that makes sense. It's what takes a yoga class and makes it forceful. I must be at my yoga class, then my run, then my Tarot pull, then my meditation. You can fill your entire day up with a bunch of stuff that you think should make you happy but how do you slow down enough to consciously move forward the things that are important to you in this lifetime?
It's funny, especially the millennial and younger generation. We have done so much therapy to understand all of our triggers, why we act the way we do, what our parents did wrong, and know exactly why we secretly are super jealous or are investment bankers. We have not spent enough time investigating therapy to ask, before our mirrors got muddy, who we were, what we liked. There’s no time wondering who is authentically you.
So the question that I want to drop down today is just: how do you know what you like to do?
It's funny how you can make a question like this something that you are mentally trying to figure out. Humans spend some much time in their brains. It's not a question of the mind it's a question of the heart. The answers are found there. The answers are found in your body. The answers are found in your energy. What fills you up, what depletes you.
You can actually do 100 things in a day and hit the pillow at night full of energy if they're the things that fill up your cup. One day the thing that fills you up, isn’t the thing that will the next. Something that can make you happy can also drain you. It's your obsession with this or that, rigidity, scheduling, labeling that gives you the idea that you're looking for certain activities when it's more of a vibe, when it's more of a point in time. What do I want to do now?
That scares you, why? Because you feel like you'll never get anything done.
Why do you wanna get something done? Why not just enjoy the present moment?
What I learned from myself:
I spend so much time thinking about “doing” happy, I don't leave time for being happy
There’s a balance of scheduling.
Each commitment you make for a future version of yourself should be done with HIGH scrunity
